December 21, 2008

Feeling Left Out?

I'm not exactly sure how to write this post. While I think I am like many brides out there trying to navigate all of the various ideas about what I am supposed to be as a bride, I sometimes feel a little left out. As I am sure you all can see from my profile there, I am a Black woman (with (dread)locs no less). While I love the wedding blog world and while I acknowledge that there are many great Black women doing wedding blogs (Brides Cafe, 12k Wedding), I still don't feel that Black brides are adequately represented. Apparently, I'm not the only one.

As much as I can identify with lots of brides, it's always nice to see someone that looks like you or may share a similar cultural background. It's not that I can't identify with women different from me either. For example, one of my favorite Bees of all time was Mrs. Hummingbird. I can't imagine someone so different from me, but I was totally feeling her!

Also I've got a particular problem with finding resources because of my hair (more on that later). The wedding world does not really offer many resources for women with (dread)locs. :) I do have some ideas that I am excited to share with you and will do so in later posts. Don't start me on make-up....oy!

Instead of complaining, I figured that I would take matters into my own hands. I started blogging as much for myself as well as for the faint hope that someone else would find some helpful information and inspiration from something I posted. I've added some resources for Black brides below that I found and thought were interesting. This is by no means an exhaustive list, but all are definitely worth a look. If anyone has found more, please share!
That being said, for my short time here on Wedding Bee I want to blog about this wedding process as it relates to ALL women. I think that while we've got a universal experience as people transitioning into marriage, there are going to be some variations on how we experience this time in our lives and what we need to do to prepare for the day.

Besides, I don't want anyone to feel left out.

Here are those helpful links I mentioned:

African American Brides - a good general blog.

African American Wedding Hairstyles - a great place for hair inspiration. The great thing about this blog is that it includes pics for Black women with ALL types of hair textures from long straightened hair to locs to two-strand twists and afros.

Brown and Bridal - an online community with emphasis on its message boards. They've also got bloggers too.

Afrobella - a great general blog for Black women with an emphasis on natural hair and make-up and beauty tips. I'm a bit of a make-up/beauty products dunce and have learned quite a bit here.


African-American Brides said...

What a really great idea! I love reading about bridal adventures. Welcome to the world of "wedding blogging", as you say. :)


A said...

I'm thrilled to have found your blog (via's blog). I agree: there are not many info resources for women of color. Or inter-racial couples!

My fiance and I are inter-racial and we're OK being in the minority but as you said: "it's just nice to see others like you."

And I'm having major hair issues as well. I've got long, curly, frizz-tacular locks that defy all manner of styling and hair products. Should be fun... ;)